30 in 30
Every year on my birthday, I try to write a list of things I’ve learned. This year, I turned 30. So here are 30 things I learned in 30 years of life. Some of them are silly, some poignant, but all true to me. Just like my life, this list is in no particular order. I hope you enjoy and partake in the exercise for your next birthday:
Love is a choice. This year, I made the choice to love every version of myself and I feel lighter for it.
Love at your own pace – it won’t be too fast or too slow for the right person. I love quickly and deeply. I believe in “movie magic love” and whirlwind romances. I deserve someone that admires those things about me.
Walking is good for the body and soul, and it’s easy.
Always tell people what they mean to you, because we all deserve to hear it sometimes.
It never hurts to be kind.
When you ask people how they are doing, mean it. Listen fully and let them know their experience matters.
When you’re anxious, you’re probably focusing too much on the past or the future. Try to be present.
If it doesn’t feel right, it’s not right for you.
Don’t go where you aren’t wanted.
Not everyone has a right to your story.
It’s okay to cry at most things.
I am easily moved by art, and every museum is worth a visit.
Do the things that scare you, and acknowledge your capacity for intensity.
There is nothing good about taking a passport photo. It will never turn out how you want, and you’ll be stuck with it for 10 years.
When you’re drowning in your thoughts, go to the ocean. The sound of the waves will wash away what’s worrying you.
I love to yap and I should win awards for it.
Applying sunscreen every day is an act of self-love and preservation.
You have to be exposed to be seen.
It doesn’t matter how hard you work, if you are not valued where you are. Know your worth.
Change is terrifying, but necessary.
Change is also freeing.
The American political system is deeply complex, and it’s not for an individual to fix or change. We all have an obligation to participating in politics and government, because it affects us all.
It is not my responsibility to fix every single thing for everyone else.
Coffee in Australia is just better than coffee in the United States, and that’s important to me.
Never apologize for feeling your feelings.
I couldn’t do anything to save my job, and it wasn’t my fault.
Some of the deepest love I have to share is reserved for my female friendships. They are special and affirming, and are meant to be cherished.
My support system is the greatest gift, and it is okay to lean on people when things are hard.
I do not need any more clothes. Seriously.
I am worthy, even when the voice in my head says I’m not.
I have so much to learn in this next decade. I am so excited for the opportunity to change and grow along the way.
